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difference
• Won’t be seen unless actively researched
• Enables noticing of small steps
In everyday and professional life we are bombarded
with masses of stimuli and manage this by looking for sameness.
People reading this will be connecting the ideas with their own
practice and knowledge:
“That is just like ….”
If we did not do this, treated each sensory input
as unique we would not be able to function. The process of making
a diagnosis is that of looking for sameness. This is helpful for
us as clinicians as it enables us to bring forward knowledge and
experience from other people, situations and reading. This is helpful
and we could not manage without it, but we risk losing a lot of
detail. We may not find difference without looking for it. Small
changes or steps are often not big enough to notice. If there are
changes, there may be some agency and so we need to bring that forward:
- “You notice the suicidal thoughts are not quite as strong
at work? Do they start getting stronger as soon as you leave,
what about lunchtime?”
- “I notice a difference between you and your mum in
how much enthusiasm you each have for your going back to school?
How do you understand the difference?”
- “I noticed in the beginning of the conversation you
seemed to be talking more freely than you are now. Has something
I have said made it less easy to talk? Are you noticing some
judgment or criticism?”
Working with time can be another way to bring forward
difference. For instance:
- “Has parenting always been a struggle?”
- “If you could take some of this memory with you what
difference would that make?”
Imagination
as a therapeutic resource
• If you can imagine something you can move towards it
• Specificity and detail needed
To imagine something, you need some knowledge
about it. Thus to articulate what is imagined can bring forward
this knowledge and the possibility of negotiating moving towards
it. There is a connection between this and the miracle question
in solution based therapy (O'Connell 1998). However, in this approach
we are looking for subtle differences which might seem possible
to reach and which can generate ideas as to steps to move towards
them:
- “What would it be like if ….?”
- “As it started to change, what would be the first sign?”
- “What would this family be like if the children did
what parents asked some of the time?”
- “This judgment that you are making, of the parenting
you do, if you were to put it aside what would be different?”
- “If you thought it was possible to re-develop trust,
what would it be like, what would you hope for, what would be
different?”
- “If you were to be the nurse/OT/doctor etc you really
want to be, what would you be doing?”
- “If Koro (grandfather) were here, sitting over
there, what would he be thinking, what might he say?”
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